Expectations

" It's funny how we hold certain expectations of people close to our hearts. the ones that friends, family and lovers uphold in times of need. you'd expect all that and so much more from your lover. most people can't live up to the expectations that have been set by their partners, and relationships fall apart. Is failed expectations the killer of most relationships? "

How True...

Dumb

I think i am very dumb..plain dumb...argh...

Crap and Attitute Not Welcome

I GIF UP!

The pain of losing someone dear to death is unbearable..

Its ironic how come we always received emails or smses to remind us that we should not take things around us for granted but we always fail to really really do it..or maybe i am the only 1..

Our pride make us feel shameful to admit our mistake..our ego make us feel that we aint at fault..our anger blinded us..our stubboness stop us from making the 1st move..to pleased/coax/apologize to our love 1s..

We only realised this when we lost that someone..kinda late..isn't it..especially when that some1 left and can will never return..

no more chance to say sorry..no more chance to see them smile again..no more chance to enjoy some quiet moment with them..no more chance to hug/kiss them to show you love them..

To all those who are reading this..grab your chances..if you really love the person..forget ur pride..dump that ego..throw the anger..quit being stubbon..go up to them and tell them..tell them how you really really feel.......

Do not wait..what if there is no tomorrow tmr for that person? You will lose them forever..

Interviews

Its either no interviews or all the interviews come at one time..but I aint complaining..

1 tmr morning...1 Fri afternoon...

Wish me gd luck..

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You're not listening to me! You never hear what I have to say! You never remember anything I tell you! All you ever do is yell! You never talk to me! Familiar? Most of us have said something of the sort on more than one occasion with little effect. A communication problem is often named the number-one reason for relationship endings. Yet the majority of people assume they know how to communicate effectively. Even though they have poor listening skills and often use manipulation, yelling, silence, threats, or blaming in order to try and be heard. However, all of us can learn effective communication regardless of age, if willing.

The relationship is a tug of war for power and control. When one member of the relationship is more dominant or doesn't permit the expression for the self or the other, the relationship will experience a halt in emotional growth of the individuals and the couple will begin to experience disappointment, fear, and worry. Anger will become the predominant emotion which will envelop the relationship leaving the couple with a sense of utter despair, confusion and just feeling hopeless.

At this point, many couples think about leaving the relationship because they just can't understand and work with the dynamics in the relationship and can't tolerate their conflicted feelings. The impulse to run away is paramount, but the reality is you can not run away from yourself. It is essential that you know what your part is in the relationship that makes it not work for you. When each member of the couple can face their inner feelings and behavior patterns and takes responsibility for their actions leaving the blame behind, the couple has the opportunity for the marriage or relationship to be repaired.

Questions and Statements That Will Help You Take Responsibility and Stop the Blaming

1. Are you allowing yourself to feel both positive and negative feelings towards your self and your partner?

2. Did anyone from your family of origin have similar problems with relationship? Did they resolve them? If they did not, we find ourselves repeating the same patterns.

3. Begin to think about how you will begin to take responsibility for your part in the problem. Ask how could you change your action or reaction to a problem?

4. Ask yourself what is your part in your relationship not working? (eg. are you too passive, dominant, dependent, independent, aggressive, do you not listen, can you feel the other person's feelings, can you be empathic,). List them.

5. Decide to change them one at a time. Talk with your partner and share your feelings about your responsibility and your part in the problem.

6. Don't expect immediate results- Be consistent and realistic in your actions and reactions.

7. Learn to nuture yourself. Do things that make you feel good both physically and mentally. Making behavior and character changes requires a great deal of energy; therefore, caring for yourself in a nurturing way will promote the growth for`these changes.

8. If you find yourself getting stuck and not able to make changes, seek therapy.

Suggestion: If you begin to blame the other for a problem, stop and ask yourself. "What is my part in making and continuing the problem." Use your energy to figure your part rather than accuse or criticize the other. Once you have figured your part inappropriate actions, share your thoughts and feelings with your partner and make the behavior changes.

Its The End

I did you wrong..

Its my fault..

I deserve it..

I am sorry..

Nuff Said..

So sweet

I was walking hm from the train station last night when I walk pass this very old couple..two of them walking beside each other..this is the conversation btw them:

Ah Ma: Lets walk faster..the bus will be here soon..if we miss it..we gotta wait very long for it..

Ah Gong: nvm lah..you cant walk fast..wait you fall down..you have me waiting for the bus with you..wait a while more also nvm..

Sooo sweet loh...sOoo touching..I also want Mr Foo to tell me this next time when we are old and slow..heehee..